Go Out With Me?

This is kinda in reply to Mark's blog post about relationships… not really, but kinda ^_^

I don’t know about you, but I get pressured all the time to get into a relationship. It’s like “the thing” everyone does. And I admit, I did go with the crowd for quite a while. Mhmm, did all that fun stuff. But looking back, I wish I hadn’t. Not that anything that I did was bad, but it was a waste… a waste of time and emotion.

Okay, now I think it’s time to say that relationships. Are. Not. Bad. Really. But, I think that relationships can be (doesn’t mean it has to be) very damaging, especially in the teenage years. Yup, I’m a teenager, so I can say that…

Before you start thinking of having a relationship… think about why you want one.

Reasons I’ve heard

1. I want/need someone to confide in… someone I can really trust…and that person just happens to be the one I really like.
2. I really feel that I love him/her.
3. Peer pressure. Everyone wants us to get together. That… is not an uncommon reason for a lot of my own friends.
4. He/She’s hot. ß Umm…? Sorry to break this to you dear, but that’s not going to work out…
5. I need someone to help me get through all the stress I go through… to be honest, I need something/someone to be my vent. To be my way of escaping all the stress I have.
6. A bit of all of that ^^
7. A different reason…

To be blunt, I don’t see the reason of having a relationship unless the both of you are serious; trying to hold the relationship together, hopefully permanently until marriage… or at least a long-term one. Otherwise, what’s the purpose? To have fun? To feel loved? To fill in the space in your life? Really? I have friends who have had two day relationships. Literally. All I can do is give them a hug, and later shake my head.

Why allow yourself to be vulnerable to unnecessary heartache and pain? It hurts to be rejected… not that I would know *cough* but why put yourself up for that? Also, having relationships have ruined many really strong friendships.

On the other hand, I have several friends who’ve had, and are still having, a long-term relationship. For two years and up. I really respect them, and yeah…

Anyways, to sum it up, having a relationship is overrated, unless you and your… partner (?) are both willing to stand up to the commitment. So, firstly, pray. Really pray. And pray hard. Because this is important. Secondly, ask around for advice. Could be your friends, your parents, your youth pastor, whatever. Get other people’s opinions. In both steps, make sure you’re open to other’s opinions… and don’t be blinded by your own desires.

Just fyi, I plan to become a monk when I grow up. Just sayinnnn… so come visit me in my robe and my monastery. Oh, and I won’t shave my head. Nope. Shan’t do that. Love my hair too much. But still, visit me mmk? That’s all, kthx.

Peace

^^

Ang

P.S. - I'm fully aware that my feelings on this will probably change… but for now… xD